The holiday season brings joy to many, but it can also create stress for children and families. Financial pressure, disrupted routines and high expectations can amplify emotions and strain family dynamics. Some parents may feel pressure to create perfect experiences like buying trendy gifts, elaborate “Elf on the Shelf” schemes, planning activities and ensuring everyone is happy. Interacting with extended family can add tension, especially if relationships are strained. Young people may also feel anxious about gifts or compare their experiences to peers or social media, leading to heightened stress.

Challenges for parents

Balancing family needs, a job and social expectations can be tough. The desire to make holidays magical can lead to overspending, stretching budgets and impacting basic needs later. School breaks add childcare challenges for working parents.

Signs your child might be struggling

Watch for changes in mood or behavior:

• Increased isolation from family and peers
• Sleep pattern changes
• Drop in school performance
• Loss of interest in activities
• Irritability or angry outbursts
• Younger children may become clingy or whiny
• Teens may isolate or show irritability

Impact of family changes

Divorce or estrangement can make holidays harder. Young people may struggle with new routines or traditions. Communicate clearly about plans, where they’ll be and who will attend. Travel and schedule changes can unsettle children. Predictability helps. Plan ahead and keep routines as consistent as possible.

Proactive steps for families

• Have honest conversations about realistic expectations
• Model calm behavior as parents/caregivers
• Allow downtime between activities
• Create new traditions focused on quality time
• Make a list of what matters most to each family member
• Ensure consistent sleep schedules
• Check in regularly on how everyone feels

When to seek professional help

If your child’s behavior is negatively impacting their day to day, reach out to a medical professional. If a child expresses thoughts of harming themselves, seek emergency help immediately or use the national 988 Lifeline.

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